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Instead of measuring what you’ve missed, measure how far you’ve come
If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ve probably heard me talk about the book The Gap & The Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy.
I won’t lie, this book has had a profound impact on my business, because it’s rewired the way I think about success and achievement.
In fact, for most of my career, I’ve held myself to a really rigid set of goals — and if I didn’t meet them, I’d beat myself up over it.
Instead of focusing on all that I did accomplish, I’d zero in on how far off I was from reaching my goal.
This, sweet friend, is called living in The Gap, and it’s fairly common with high achievers and entrepreneurs. It's a really terrible place to hang out, because no matter how much you accomplish, there will always be a moving target that’s out of reach.
The Gain is a much better place to live. So, what is The Gain? Well, it’s all about feeling grateful for the progress you do make, which in turn drives motivation, confidence, and future success. *Gasp!* That’s right, I said future success!
I’m so much happier now that I’m living in The Gain. Yes, I can acknowledge that I didn’t meet my goals, and yes, I can brainstorm ways to improve — but I’ll tell ‘ya – having appreciation for how far I’ve come makes a big difference in my quality of life overall.
In this episode, you’ll hear more about the concept of The Gap and The Gain, why living in The Gain can absolutely change your life for the better, and steps you can take to get there.
Here’s a glance at this episode…
- [03:50] The gap is when you live your life and determine your goals by someone or something outside of yourself.
- [04:42] The gain means living life and measuring success on your own terms. It's looking backwards and seeing how far you've come.
- [06:56] It's deeply ingrained in me that I won't get better if I'm not living in the gap, but I’m working to shift that mindset.
- [10:24] If you're not celebrating the wins, you will never want to stay in the game. It’s important to celebrate how far you've come.
- [15:47] Focus on what works well and what you can do more of next time, and always be grateful.
- [16:08] Measuring backwards is so important. It means looking at where you've been and how far you've come. This will change your perspective in a huge way.
- [17:00] When you don’t meet your goals, acknowledge it, and the fact that you’re frustrated. Then do your very best to get back in the gain.
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